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PTA Reaches Out to Military Families

Unfortunately, that isn’t happening here in Alabama where apparently the PTA could not care less about what a local PTA is doing to military families. Perhaps it’s silent approval that military families are being attacked and separated by a power mad and ignorant PTA is okay here since Alabama State PTA officials never bothered to respond to my concerns and the behavior of their officers at both the school and district level.

But, Alaska DOES seem to get it. In recent weeks, representatives from the National Military Family Association have had the opportunity to work with the Parent Teachers Association (PTA) at both the state and national level. In mid-October, Kathleen Moakler, Government Relations Director, traveled to Alaska to take part in a series of dialogues between military families, family program and healthcare providers, state legislators, city government leaders, non-government organizations, and Alaska State PTA volunteers. The sessions were held in Fairbanks, Anchorage, and Kodiak. Participants in each session were briefed on Service family support programs, military healthcare, veterans’ benefits, as well as new legislation affecting service members and their families.

Our Association and the Armed Services YMCA were highlighted as organizations with “best practices” and presented overviews of how our programs were impacting military families. Time was allotted at the end of each of the 6 hour sessions for a discussion of what programs were helping families and where the gaps existed. A report of these meetings will be presented to the Alaska state legislature’s Joint Armed Services Committee and to the Alaska congressional delegation. This project was funded by the Alaska state legislature through a grant to the Alaska PTA. Special thanks go to Paula Pawlowski and Chris Ward (Association representatives in Alaska) and Al Tamagni from the Alaska PTA for inviting our Association to take part in this timely series of meetings.

In addition to participating with PTA on the state level, Candace Wheeler, Government Relations Deputy Director, traveled to the National PTA Headquarters in Chicago where she represented our Association at the first meeting of the PTA Alliance to Support Military Families. The mission of the new alliance is to educate PTA families across the country and overseas on how to support military families, and to give military families the tools to become better advocates for their children. Other members of the alliance are the Military Impacted Schools Association (MISA), Military Child Education Coalition (MCEC), and the Department of Defense Education Activity (DoDEA).

Troops MUST Reintegrate Into Their Families

Last week, Vice Chief of Staff of the Army testified before Congress. One of the things he told the panel should scare every single member of the military:

“Spouses were telling me that their husbands were not reintegrating with the family. They just realized that that was too hard to do in the short period of time they had (before returning to war) and they would back off from the family, which creates the relationship problems.”

Dear brothers and sisters in arms, we CANNOT afford to close ourselves off from our families. They are the only ones that can see us through the difficulties of deployment. They are the best thing we have in dealing with our issues and understanding our sacrifices and duties. They sacrifice with us while we are gone and if we shut them out, we denigrate THEIR sacrifices.

It’s hard to ratchet down to the CONUS mindset knowing that in just 12 short months, you’ll be back in the combat mindset, but it’s something that must happen for the sake of our futures and our families’ futures. It would be different if there was a definite end date to these wars we’re fighting, but the enemy has a vote. We don’t now, so we need to take every step possible to find normalcy in the sea of conflict and combat we are so frequently subjected to.

If we can’t lean on and support our families, who can we turn to? Our non-military friends have no idea. Most communities have no clue. Our fellow troops have their own problems and marriages to worry about (though they are also a source to be tapped into). Our families should be our number one priority, not the Army, not the mission. Nothing should hold a higher priority in our lives except maybe our God.

If you make the Army a career, it will last 20-30 years. Your family will be there for much longer if you do it right. Why let something so temporary as the Army take precedence over something you’ve sworn to protect for “time and all eternity” or “until death do you part?”

Yes, the war is draining us emotionally and physically, but if we don’t take the battle to the enemy, they will bring it back home again. We are stronger than that. We cannot let them win by killing us physically and mentally abroad and killing our marriages back home. Now, go your spouse and ______________. (you fill in the blank)