Ten Things To Know Before Marrying Into The Military

March 28, 2012 By
Posted in Military Life, Spouse and Family

Most spouses don’t really think twice before marrying into the military. Why would they? They love their husband, and if they want a life with him, then they’ll have to deal with the military too. Unfortunately, marriage doesn’t come with a manual, and marriage in the military is even more complicated than in the civilian world. Many wives, fresh out of their parents’ house and into married life, are blindsided by the amount of stress and responsibility that comes with marrying a service member. We all think we know what to expect, but reality has a way of giving us a wake-up call. And while civilian divorce rates have been dropping, divorce rates in the military have been climbing.

So what is it that spouses need to know to prepare themselves before they marry a military man? What are the tips that spouses could use to help adjust more easily to this hectic lifestyle? For each person, it will probably vary. But if I had to choose what spouses need to know about military life, it would be these ten things.

10. Let Go of Romantic Fantasies

A lot about being married to a man in the military seems romantic. And that perception is often fueled by Nicholas Sparks books and Hollywood movies, eager to paint a picture of a romantic hero, writing love letters to the woman he’s fighting for, while she waits patiently at home — usually dressed perfectly, with impeccable makeup and hair, staring longingly out over a beach or something similarly sappy. Our war hero comes home, the lovers reunite, and their lives go back on as normal.

Reality isn’t quite so romantic. Most wives I know don’t get love letters, as it’s hard to find the time to sit down and write a ten page letter pouring out your feelings when you’re in the middle of fighting a war. If you do get a love letter, it’s a momentary high amid months and months of lows. It doesn’t make up for the constant missing him and the time apart. And while there are certainly times when your every thought is consumed by the deployment, for the most part, life goes on as usual when they’re gone. The world doesn’t stop just because your husband leaves. Children still need to be fed, bills still need to be paid, and the house still needs to be cleaned. You go on as you always did, and just miss him along the way.

And when they come home? That’s a temporary relief. In today’s military, you don’t come home from war and then rebuild your life, never to leave again. No, in about a year or so, you’ll be waving goodbye to your husband as he leaves on a bus again, off to the Middle East once more.

Bottom line: real life will never live up to the romantic fantasies. There are countless romantic moments – such as that first kiss at homecoming after a deployment – but they don’t make up your entire marriage. Romanticizing your role as a military spouse will do nothing but give you crushed expectations.

9. Gossip Isn’t Just Harmful

Gossip and rumors come with the territory of being a military wife, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good thing. From the mundane (one wife badmouthing another wife) to the dangerous (violating OPSEC), it unfortunately runs rampant, most likely due to the young age of many military wives.

One of the first things a wife needs to learn is not to gossip. Don’t talk about other wives, because they need your support just as much as you need theirs. The gossiping that goes on between wives can spread real enmity and discord in the unit, and rarely does it stay between the wives. Husbands inevitably get dragged into it, and then they’re caught in awkward situations when they have to go back to work. It’s even worse when they’re deployed, because the last thing they need to be worried about is that their wife can’t play nicely. If there’s constantly drama, badmouthing, and backstabbing going on back home, it will cause them more headaches, and during deployment, they need to be focused on one thing only, and that’s their mission.

The really harmful gossip comes from spreading rumors about the deployment, and violating OPSEC. Both happen with alarming frequency. There was the recent case, of course, of a wife whose husband’s death was leaked onto Facebook, causing the wife to be notified via text message from another spouse. There’s also the issue of releasing what may seem like harmless information online. Our enemies have computers, too, and when a wife posts that she only has “68 days left until my husband comes home!” on Facebook, she’s basically painting a target onto his unit’s back. Add in the rumor-spreading — the deployment’s been cut short, it’s being extended, they aren’t really at this base, they’re at this base — and you’re giving the command a mess to clean up that shouldn’t even exist.

The lesson: learn to keep your mouth shut, both about other wives and about the unit.

8. Learn to Retrain Your Brain

Fact: your husband will come home and talk to you like a Marine (or whichever branch is applicable). And while you may be able to eventually break him of that habit, one thing won’t change, and that is the constant use of military verbiage. It becomes necessary to teach yourself the ins and outs of the military, because no one is going to sit down and explain to you what all of the acronyms mean, or that your husband’s social security number will become your golden ticket to… well, everything. You will have to be the one to take the initiative to learn these things, whether it is on your own or by going to a class on base (such as LINKS).

And your husband won’t think to be patient while you learn, either. When you’re staring at him like he’s speaking a foreign language, sure, he’ll stop and explain. But there will be days when he comes home and, say, tells you he has to go to IPAC tomorrow because his BAH isn’t right on his LES. The military has acronyms for everything, and they don’t always make sense. You’re going to have to be the one to familiarize yourself with them, because they don’t give you a guidebook on it when you say “I do”.

The military is an entirely different world from the civilian world, and it will be a culture shock. It’s up to you to make sure you learn how to navigate smoothly.

7. Take Advantage of Resources

I am no expert on the resources available to us on base. But I do know what a lot of them are, and it floors me that more people don’t take advantage of them. You name it, and they’ve got something for you to help.

Not good with money? You can take a budgeting class. Having a baby? There are baby bootcamps, Lamaze classes, and baby budgeting classes, all waiting for you to sign up. Want to get your kid into some kind of activities? Community centers on base offer so many different activities it’ll make your head spin, from play dates to cheerleading and karate to mommy-and-me yoga. And then there’s also countless sports programs, too.

And it doesn’t end there. One thing I never understood is why spouses waste their money paying to go to a gym off base – there are free gyms on base, and many of them offer the same types of classes that those gyms you’re paying to use do, like yoga, spinning, and Zumba. Want to work on your marriage? There are numerous retreats and workshops set up to help strengthen your bond.

The bottom line is, make sure you educate yourself on what is available on base, and take advantage of it. Many of them are provided at no cost to you, and can really help enrich your time in the military.

6. Respect the Uniform

How many wives know that there are rules that a service member has to follow when they are in uniform? For example, you are supposed to walk on your husband’s left side when he’s in uniform, in case he has to salute. Public displays of affection are not allowed. They can’t walk and talk on the cell phone at the same time.

What wives can take from this is, your husband’s uniform isn’t just what he has to wear to work. When he puts on that uniform, everything changes, and you have to be the one to respect that. Part of that means presenting yourself well. If you are dressed like a slob while he’s in uniform, it reflects poorly on him. If you’re swearing like a drunken idiot, it makes him look bad. Everything about you now is a reflection upon him, at least when it comes to on-base activities, and when you’re with him in uniform, that’s doubly true. So carry yourself well, just like he has to do.

But there are other ways to disrespect the uniform. One thing that drives me up the wall is seeing wives take naked pictures in their husbands’ uniforms, usually the dress blues, and posting them on Facebook for the world to see. Ladies, something you need to realize: our men earned the right to wear that uniform. And men before them fought and died in them. They do not exist for you to look sexy in, or for you to show off your boobs in some perverted display of military “pride”. Taking near-pornographic pictures in your husband’s uniform and posting them for the world to see doesn’t show that you’re a proud wife, it shows that you’re a skank who has no problem disrespecting a uniform which stands for so much more then “look at my boobs!”.

5. Accept That You Will Always Come Second

This is the second deployment that I have been pregnant for. The first time, my husband barely made it home in time. His command knew that his wife was pregnant and due right around homecoming, but that didn’t matter much. They weren’t going to arrange his flight schedule around my pregnancy. He was home in time, luckily, but he also came very close to missing it. This pregnancy? He won’t be home for the birth.

Birthdays, anniversaries, you name it, the military doesn’t care. He will love you more than anything else in the world, but it doesn’t change the fact that you now come second to everything. If you make plans, half the time they’ll need to be broken. He will work late, miss your birthday, and have to cancel anniversary dinners. You’ll celebrate Thanksgiving in October and Christmas when he gets home in July. Unless you are on your deathbed, the military will not care. It will not matter how long you might have been planning that anniversary dinner, if they want him to work late, he’s going to have to work late. Your hurt feelings don’t matter. So it’s better to just accept it from the beginning. Marry a man in the military, and until he gets out, you’ll inevitably come second.

4. Prepare for Worst Case Scenarios

Most spouses never want to think about the possibility of something bad happening to their husbands. Who would? Unfortunately, in the military, preparing for the possibility is a must.

Before a deployment, there is always the inevitable brief to go over the worst case scenario discussion. Everyone hates it, but it’s something that has to be mentioned. And if you’re smart, you’ll take the time to consider it on your own as well. Most of us will get our husbands back, safe and whole. But it isn’t a guarantee. Some husbands will come home wounded. Others won’t come home at all. The thoughts fills each of us with dread, but it is something you must prepare yourself for, and make plans in case it does happen.

Serving in the military isn’t like working in most civilian professions. It is legitimately dangerous, and you need to come to terms with that.

3. Homecoming Isn’t All Kisses and Excitement

Homecoming. We all look forward to it for months on end during a deployment. And when that days comes, it is one of the happiest days of your life. That rush when you see them for the first time, the flood of emotions after that first kiss… it is truly indescribable until you’ve experienced it.

But what about after all of that?

Eventually, you have to go home. And you’ve got to get to know each other all over again. For some people, it might be a rough adjustment — which is normal. For others, your relationship might pick right back up where it left off. But either way, there’s a lot you have to deal with when they come home. Both of you have gotten used to doing everything on your own. Suddenly, you’ve got to share everything again. You can’t do everything your own way anymore.

And what about the relationship? The reunion may be harder for some than for others, but either way, things very well could be different. All that time apart, it changes you — both of you. You’ve got to take the time to learn about each other again, to get acclimated again. During a deployment, it’s easy to build your husband up in your mind. You remember everything wonderful and good about him, and everything bad becomes nonexistent. Then he comes home, and you remember that he leaves his open spit bottles everywhere. He tracks mud in on the carpets from his boots. He leaves his clothes everywhere. He snores. He hogs the bed. You have to start getting used to things around the house not being done only your way.

The point is, while those first few days are like being in a romantic heaven, shortly afterwards reality sets in. And it isn’t always easy or perfect. That doesn’t mean it’s bad — but it does mean that it’s a good idea to have realistic expectations of what it will be like when your husband finally comes home.

2. Lonely Does Not Have To Mean Miserable

Deployments are hard. They are very, very hard. The feeling of loneliness never really goes away. You’ll miss him every day and every night. You’ll live for the phone calls and the e-mails and, if you’re lucky, the Skype dates. Getting a letter from him will make your day. Going a month without a phone call will make you afraid. There are times the fear will be so real that you can’t breathe; that you’ll feel so alone that there’s nothing you can do but cry.

But here’s the thing: you don’t have to be miserable the entire time. We all have those days, when we’re in a bad place, and nothing can cheer us up, nothing can make us feel better. It’s OK to give in to those days when you have them. But it’s even more important not to wallow in them.

If you let yourself be miserable the entire time he’s gone, then it will only go by that much slower, and be that much harder for you. You have to learn to live your life for you, too, and not just for your husband. Being depressed and lonely and sad isn’t healthy, and it doesn’t help you cope. Make friends, find a hobby, keep busy. If you succumb to all of the negatives, then you’re just making it harder on yourself. You don’t have to make yourself a martyr during the deployment. If you let yourself go on with your life, and still be happy and busy and as normal as possible, the time will not only go by faster, but it will be easier, too.

1. Learn To Be Independent

You cannot survive as a military wife if you can’t learn to be independent. It’s that simple — and for some people, that hard. The simple reality of this lifestyle is that you have got to learn to be self-reliant, and usually very quickly. You’ll have to learn to do everything yourself, from paying the bills and cleaning the house to mowing the yard and fixing the car. When something goes wrong, you’ve got to be the one to fix it.

Deployments, training, field ops, duty… there are countless reasons why your husband will be taken away from you. Many times, it will be with very little notice. (I had roughly 24 hours before my husband left for predeployment training last year.) This forces you to be able to think on your feet, to adjust to changes very quickly, and to be able to stay semper gumby: a phrase I absolutely detest, but sums up the necessary attitude a spouse must have at all times. Plans will change, things will go wrong, and you’ll spend a lot of time alone. You have to be able to be independent enough to handle anything that comes your way, no matter how big or small, and to handle it all alone.

Independence is the number one thing a military wife needs, because without it, she doesn’t stand a chance.

Photo courtesy Leslie Cowger

39 Responses to Ten Things To Know Before Marrying Into The Military

  1. Tomare Utsu Zo

    Number six. Absolutely and completely disagree. Between the spouse and service member. But, Just about every service member I know thinks it is the sexiest thing in the world when our women half wear our uniform … indoors.

  2. Well, exactly — when it’s private between the two of you, then go for it! I’m talking about when they take these pictures and post them on Facebook or Twitter or wherever else for anyone to see. Big no-no in my book, but a lot of women do it.

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  4. Number 1 needs to be: “Just because your spouse is in the military DOESN’T MEAN YOU ARE!”

    Too many spouses seem to think that the rank is theirs. It’s not. You don’t get the salutes, you don’t get to throw rank around, and you don’t get to go around telling other service members about the military (especially if you are going to talk regs and acronyms and use them incorrectly- thereby making not only you, but your spouse look incredibly stupid). You don’t go on deployments, you don’t go to the schools, or the field, or earn the retirement check. You just happen to be married to someone who did/does all those things. Find your own accomplishments, don’t ride on your spouses coattails. No one is buying it.*

    *This does not apply for those who have served/are serving themselves. To them I say, carry on ladies/gents.

    Let all the sensitive, holier-than-thou, speshul snowflakes come out to tell a vet “they serve too.” I can feel the ground shake with their approach now….

  5. My situation was hopeless me and my husband was on the verge of divorce. I was in a awful state and felt that I was not able to cope with life any longer. I found wiseindividualspell@gmail.com and tried him. Well, he did return and now we are doing well again, more than ever before. Thank you so much wiseindividualspell@gmail.com i will forever be grateful to you.

  6. You know, I’ve done this bs as an army wife for 11 years. My husband is on his sixth overseas deployment and I’m sick to death of it. Why didn’t you bring up the face that they cheat, cheat, cheat? The armysluts that they’re deployed with take advantage of your man and that’s the facts. And, I’m not walking on my husband’s left side while he’s in uniform. I didn’t sign up, he did, so take your stupid rules and shove it up your a**.

  7. “fact” not “face:

  8. By the way, adria, we DO earn the retirement check!!! That’s why after ten years of marriage we get HALF. So, get over yourself. So all you wives contemplating divorce….hang on until after that 10 year mark so that you can get something out of it. Speak reality people. Nicholas Sparks is fiction. And, just because someone is in the military doesn’t make them some kind of hero/saint/angel.

    • I agree the same thing happened to me my husband was cheating with multiple women in Afghanistan. I guess he thought I was not going to find out. Little did he know they kept harassing me and spilled everything. I lost over 60 pounds due to my depression over this. While we are here taking care of home and doing right by them they are over there supposing working, right…he told me they had clubs and restaurants. The women that contacted me was having an affair with him the whole time he was at that camp, and when they moved him he started having an affair with another girl…and yes they all new about his family.

  9. ^^^^ Not all men catn control them selfs .. and its disrespwctfull to call the women fight ting for you a slut you dont know whats going on overseas so how can you say that i was gettin on her looking for awnsers but all i see is bad mouthing so i doubt i caould get any help here but i am gong to ask anyway !!! i am wainting to get married in 2 months he dont think hell be able to to come home from ait be for going to his duty station is there away we can go ahead and get married there at his ait or somethng ?

  10. You can have a proxy marriage….www.armedforcesproxymarriages.com…and military life is hard but if you love your spouse its worth it! I wouldnt have my life any other way!

  11. is that only for montana ?

  12. ^^^ Elizabeth – thank you for that information were going to do that … you have helped us out so much we have been looking for a loop hole and you gave us the awnser i cant thank you enough we are high school sweet hearts reconnected after 7 years and he was already signed up for the army and we have been trying to find away thank you so much !!!!

  13. My boyfriend is extremely depressed and cannot get ahead in life right now. Our relationship is falling apart because I do not want to accept the fact he wants to join the airforce. I come from a family with a military background and my mother told me its a lonely life. I watch my brother’s family suffer from him being gone so much and I just don’t know if I can accept the lifestyle. I feel extremely selfish by telling my boyfriend that I don’t know if I can stay with him if he joins. I love him very much but I am not ready for that kind of change. My mother passed away four years ago and it devastated me, I do not want to be alone. Should I walk away from all this? I know I am hurting his self-esteem and breaking his heart by saying that I wouldn’t be able to be with him if he leaves. Also, his parents do not support us if we marry, which really hurts because in a way it would make this situation a bit easier. I’m so very confused and entirely too stressed. Any advice?….

  14. Jewel,

    He has every right to make his own choice, but so do you. Being a military wife is such a big adjustment. You my wind up very depressed if he does join, and you are often left alone. I know I was. There are benefits, but you have to really think about it and discuss it with him. No, you are not selfish. If it is something that you cannot or do not wish to deal with, now is the time to say so. I don’t understand his parents not supporting you two getting married. How is he dealing with that? If he is not man enough to stand up to his parents, is he going to be man enough to make it in the military? If he is truly depressed, and not just trying to manipulate you, he needs to seek out a therapist before he joins up.

  15. Just wanted to thank Adria for taking the words right out of my mouth. BRAVO!

  16. i have to ariadeer is right… i am about to get married to my current boyfriend who is now reenlisting. He has told me countless stories of a lot of the female soldiers actually selling sex to the male soldiers. i am not saying all of them are.. but he made his opinion on those women pretty clear. Same as not all female soldiers are sluts.. not all male soldiers cheat or are sluts either.

    also with the decision for us to get married i am happy their are so many forum/articles on what to realistically expect rather than dressing it up. thank you

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  19. Ariadeer, I have some news for you. From one military wife to another, your husband cheating on you had nothing to do with him being in the military. If he cheated on you as a soldier, he’ll cheat on you as a civilian. There are plenty of men out there perfectly capable of controlling themselves. Clearly your husband is either not one of them or he is not invested in your marriage, or both. Nobody has a gun to your head to stay with him. If you’re so miserable, then get a divorce. Don’t go around bad mouthing military men and marriages because you choose to be an idiot.

  20. You have vaild points but this is mostly your opionion not how it is for everybody. I am married to a wonderful man in the military yes you do need to learn to respect everybody but thats also in civilian life. No you dont really need to learn what all the acronyms mean because half the time you really shouldnt know. You will come second but you will always be first in his heart. Mostly you will come second to his unit because those our the guys he is fighting, bonding,hanging, and talking about home with. Military spouses do get credit Because they are sticking through the difficult time. All i got to say is everybody expierences are different. All you got to know is do you really love him that you will give up things for him like moving. You will learn through your own expierences.

  21. And Adria Alot of women know what they are getiing into and yes we know we are not in the military but we are in their family. Everybody treats you with respect. Yes i get respect because of my husband but they also respect me as just me. And spouses do deserve something because they deal with heartbreaks, tears, Breaking down, and sometimes loneliness .

  22. HI , im just starting out as an army man’s fiance he’s getting deployed in november. Truthfully i have accepted that he cannot be there all the time. But we will make this work because we “love” each other honestly i feel as if you shouldnt go into this great depression because hes not around live life as you did before him minus the other guys. Constantly talk to him thats what ive done and you know what were crazy about one another thats all that matters soo you guys shouldnt be bitching about this thanks.

  23. My fiance is in the marines and i’ve heard a lot of stories of both women and men cheating on their significant other. That is the person not the military or anything like that. If your husband cheats on you thats on him and it probably means you arent enough sexually for him or he chooses not to just masturbate and wait for you. On another note, i’m getting married in december and would like to know some of the paperwork i should get in order to marry a marine and get enrolled into DEERS and such.

  24. Ilovemilitary men

    Ariadeer is 100% correct!! I am not married to anyone in the military as a matter of fact I am not or never been married. I just stumbled upon this while browsing about something’. I have been dating military men for over a year now.. Kind of a fettish. I get approached by military men often due to living close to a base (Fort Bragg) some married men will just tell me upfront my wife is back home with the kids I’m just horny” or that they just want someone to understand them I however don’t deal with marry men .not anymore so if u don’t respect your military man.. There will be a bitch like me waiting to fuck him and oh did I mention they also pay and take women who appreciate them on dates .. And on trips…. Smh

  25. I am engaged to an army boy, his name is lukas…i love him dearly and he wants to bring me on base with him,…im reading about some of this stuff and its going to be a challenge for me no joke..and we wanna raise a family…im just not sure how to handle it all…what if i loose him or something….i need him and i know he needs me when we met..oh it was so amazing…we bumped heads at a grosery store…oh we laughed then he put a frozen bag of peas on my head and says miss im gonna take you out…7 months later were here now…i was shocked when he asked me to come to base with him…i think im gonna accept it…cuz i just love him so much.

  26. Being married into the military is really not bad..every obstacle can be accomplished if you really love your partner as much as he love you…..with love ..everything is possible…you will know if something isnt right….due to your woman’s intuition….. But if love is present from both partners…..patience will be there and things should go well.

  27. I am engaged to a military man who has returned from deployment for only 3 months now and we’ve gone through more ups and downs in these three months than we did the entire time we were dating and the entire time he was deployed. I have been trying to read up on things beforehand and afterward to help get myself (us) through this. One thing I can say is that this is a struggle and it’s not fun. it hurts to love someone so much and be so disconnected at the same time. I agree with so many things the original author of this blog wrote. The major issue I have is communication, we are both in leadership positions in multiple areas of our lives and sometimes when he talks to me I either ignore him or go off on him because he’s talking to me like I’m his subbordinate or child or something. If anyone has any oher advise to help me avoid this particular issue, feedback is welcomed.

  28. My highest respect for all the military husbands!!! I am proud of every one of them!

  29. Reading all of this helped me more than anything the military wives in my family have ever told me! Thank you so much for the honesty. I’ve been dating a Marine for a while and we’ve been talking about marriage lately, and I know he’s who I’m supposed to be with – but I’d never planned on being a military wife. After reading this, I know I have what it takes to do what that “label” would ask of me – everything happens for a reason, right? I feel like every experience I’ve ever had has been leading me to the moment I’ll say “I do.” Thank you so much.

  30. my boyfriend is in the Army we dated in high school broke up and then got back together. He is in the Army. He is based in Louisiana and he wants me to move there and get married. I’m only 20 years old and I feel he only wants to do that because he doesn’t trust my male friends I have. When I was a baby my dad left my mom for the army and had a new family. I don’t hate the Army but right now I don’t see myself as an Army wife what should I do. I should add he has many female numbers in his phone where he took mine and deleted my male friends numbers and has 2 strippers numbers in his phone and wont delete it. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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  32. How i got my stubborn husband back through the real spell caster.
    My name is Mrs. Juan Nicole, its been six months now, since i broke up with my husband, we filled a divorce form, we had a very big problem that was beyond our control, i came to find out that he was having an affair with another woman, so he stayed away from me because I questioned him, he just sent me away, after much begging and apologies, he refuses to come back to me. i tried all i could to make her believe that i still love him,but he said it was over between us. so i discussed it with a very good friend of mine,who advice me on what to do, she told me that the only way that I can get him back asap is to visit a spell caster and the name of the spell caster was Prophet Marivian, So i have always heard about that but never have the believe. so i was forced to really visit the same spell caster who assured me that i will get my husband back after a week of his spell casting and he told me to believed that every thing will definitely be fine once he is through with his work.
    So that was how he casted the spell and a week after, i was so surprise to see my ex husband that i haven’t seen for good six months coming back to my father’s house and begging for forgiveness. So that was how we both lived a happy life again up till today,our relationship is now stronger than how it was before.
    Thanks

  33. i am Becky by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address pekokospelltemple@gmail.com, have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr.JAJA TEMPLE. His email: pekokospelltemple@gmaicom Dr JAJA TEMPLE….

  34. Cherry Davidson

    My name is Cherry Davidson, i live in United states and I’m happily married to a lovely and caring Husband with two kids. A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago between me and my Husband, so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce. He said that he never wanted to stay with me again and that he didn’t love me anymore.So he drove us out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pains. I tried all my possible means to get him back after much begging but all seems avail and he confirmed it that he has made his decision and he never wanted to see me again.
    So on one evening, as i was coming back from work, i met an old friend of mine who asked of my Husband, So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my him back, is to visit a spell caster. So i never believed in spell and i was afraid of been scammed for i have been hearing about fake spell casters and she confronted me and told me that this man is real and powerful, that’s she has been scammed before she met this powerful priest Okedie so i had no other choice, than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address and website of the spell caster whom she visited.{priestokediesolutionhome@gmail.com or http://priestokediesolutionhome.webs.com}.
    So the next morning, i sent a mail to the address she gave to me telling him everything that happened and the spell caster assured me that i will get my Husband back in just 24 hours after he has finished the spell cast. What an amazing statement!! I never believed, he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, Husband who didn’t call me for the past seven {7}months, gave me a call .So Amazing!! So that was how he came back to my life with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for her mistake and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day, our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of priest Okedie
    So, i will advice you out there who needs help should kindly visit priest okedie on his email priestokediesolutionhome@gmail.com or you contact him directly through his website on http://priestokediesolutionhome.webs.com
    If you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to “bringing your ex back and lot’s more.
    So thanks to the great priest Okedie for bringing back my Husband and brought great joy to my family once again.
    priestokediesolutionhome@gmail.com

  35. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who
    helped me..My name is Lizzy Desler and I base in US.
    My life is back!!! After 9 years of marriage, my husband left
    me and left me with our one kid, I felt like my life was about to
    end, and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster
    called Prist Bacasim who i met online. On one faithful
    day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was
    searching for a good spell caster that can solve my
    problems. I came across series of testimonies about
    this particular spell caster. Some people testified
    that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified
    that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast
    a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one
    particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called
    grace,she testified about how Prist Bacasim brought back
    her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of
    her testimony she drop Prist Bacasim e-mail address.
    After reading all these,I decided to give the great Prist a
    try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to
    him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved
    our issues, and we are even happier than before. Prist Bacasim
    is really a talented and gifted man and i will not stop publishing
    him because he is a wonderful man…If you have a problem
    and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that
    problem for you. Try the great Prist Bacasim today, he might be the
    answer to your problem. Here’s his contact:
    pristbacasim@gmail.com
    Thank you great Prist Bacasim. Contact him for the following:

    (1)If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4)You want women/men to run after you.
    (5)If you want a child.
    (6)[You want to be rich.
    (7)You want to tie your husband wife to be yours forever.

    (8)If you need financial assistance.
    (9)Herbal care
    10)Help bringing people out of prison
    (11)Marriage Spells
    (12)Miracle Spells
    (13)Beauty Spells
    (14)Property Charm
    (15)Attraction Spells
    (16)Evil Eye Spells
    (17)Kissing Spell
    (18)Remove Sickness Spells
    Contact him today on: pristbacasim@gmail.com

  36. This is my testimony about the good work of a man who
    helped me..My name is Lizzy Desler and I base in US.
    My life is back!!! After 9 years of marriage, my husband left
    me and left me with our one kid, I felt like my life was about to
    end, and was falling apart. Thanks to a spell caster
    called Prist Bacasim who i met online. On one faithful
    day, as I was browsing through the internet, I was
    searching for a good spell caster that can solve my
    problems. I came across series of testimonies about
    this particular spell caster. Some people testified
    that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified
    that he restores womb, some testified that he can cast
    a spell to stop divorce and so on. There was one
    particular testimony I saw, it was about a woman called
    grace,she testified about how Prist Bacasim brought back
    her Ex lover in less than 72 hours and at the end of
    her testimony she drop Prist Bacasim e-mail address.
    After reading all these,I decided to give the great Prist a
    try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to
    him. In just 3 days, my husband came back to me. We solved
    our issues, and we are even happier than before. Prist Bacasim
    is really a talented and gifted man and i will not stop publishing
    him because he is a wonderful man…If you have a problem
    and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve that
    problem for you. Try the great Prist Bacasim today, he might be the
    answer to your problem. Here’s his contact:
    pristbacasim@gmail.com
    Thank you great Prist Bacasim. Contact him for the following:

    (1)If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3)You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4)You want women/men to run after you.
    (5)If you want a child.
    (6)[You want to be rich.
    (7)You want to tie your husband wife to be yours forever.

    (8)If you need financial assistance.
    (9)Herbal care
    10)Help bringing people out of prison
    (11)Marriage Spells
    (12)Miracle Spells
    (13)Beauty Spells
    (14)Property ChhParm
    (15)Attraction Spells
    (16)Evil Eye Spells
    (17)Kissing Spell
    (18)Remove Sickness Spells
    Contact him today on: pristbacasim@gmail.com

  37. Hello every body, my name is Phillip and I just want to let you all know that having a broken heart is not an easy thing, but no matter how bad your situation may be, I want to let you all know that there is a way to get your ex chasing you around again wanting to be with you, because this is exactly what I did when my girlfriend left me for someone else and I am happy today because she is back with me and all these happened with the help of a spell caster Esango Priest. You can contact him via email:esangopriest@gmail.com

  38. Viewers of this testimony should please stop by and rejoice with me.
    My name is Melisa Shawn from Usa, i never believe in love spell or magic powers because i believed all of them was scammers and fake until when i experienced heart brake with the father of my kids and i came across Prophet Ibu of divinesolutioncenter@hotmail.com or divinesolutioncenter01@gmail.com a great online spell caster who just helped me recently to rescue my lost relationship with my Husband who broke up with me for good three and a half years. When i contacted him, i told him everything that happened between me and my Husband and without demanding anything from me, he decided to perform a spell cast and after 24 hours surprisingly my Husband called me on my mobile and started speaking with me in a good manner and as i am sharing this testimony now we are back again into our relationship and i’m the happiest woman on earth for Prophet Ibu had done a great and wonderful thing in my life. Come and rejoice with me and if you wish to contact Prophet Ibu for any help i will drop his email ids(divinesolutioncenter@hotmail.com and divinesolutioncenter01@gmail.com) or you contact him through his personal website on
    http://divinesolutioncenter.webs.com/
    He is the best of our time…

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