Monthly Archives: December 2009

An Open Letter To Huntsville

Now that I’m safely out of Huntsville and reunited with my kids, I wanted to take a moment to address the people of Huntsville.

I want to start with the fact that Huntsville is probably the best place I’ve ever been stationed. The people are kind and generous and generally very supportive of the military. The city itself offers more community activities than I’ve ever seen at any other place I’ve been. The concerts in the park stand out above all else.

There was never any lack of finding things to do in the evenings or on the weekends. The Space and Rocket Center offers free entrance to military families and we took advantage of it for sure!! My kids LOVED going to Sci-Quest and Early Works museums – so much so that we bought annual memberships.

Downtown Huntsville is so full of history and fun. We discovered a little late, though, that the ducks and fish like being fed. We would often find ourselves downtown watching the baby ducks follow their mothers around the edge of the water as the beautifully colored fish swam beneath them, occasionally nipping at their feet I think. In the past two years we’ve been to more parades and hockey games than our past 15 years combined! Huntsvillians know how to fight boredom. The trails are to die for! I loved losing myself in thought as I navigated the miles and miles of trails spread around the city. Monte Sano will be sorely missed.

Huntsville is also the city that introduced me to geocaching! Geocaching is a world wide scavenger hunt in which players hide and seek “caches” of various sized using GPS units and a little imagination. Huntsville lays claim to about 1,000 of these, but I only found a few less than 400. As a matter of fact, it was this hobby that helped me find the trails where one can find numerous Earthcaches, or geologic sites.

As a very active person in my community, I also found a lot of kindred souls as I sought to express my political opinions on a variety of levels, from local to federal. I enjoyed hanging out with the group at the corner of Airport and Whitesburg as we waived the American flag and supported our troops in opposition to the hippies across the street who were ignorant to the sacrifices our troops are making on their behalf. But, I enjoyed seeing them exercise the freedoms those men and women have laid down their life for. I attended my first Tea Party there and was honored to have been able to contribute to its success (I’ve since repaired my archaic system to prevent further power outages). Finally, rallying with like-minded, constitutionally supportive Americans against government run health care and similar stupidity.

Unfortunately, I had to end my time there earlier than I would have liked, in large part due to the terrible education system I was confronted with. The interesting part of it is that we never had any problems with the school system until this school year. When we had issues with something at the school, my wife and I approached the principal, Mr. McAllister, and felt fairly confident that the problem was taken care of. When we had issues, he listened to us – or at least made us think he did. Even when he knew I was upset about something, he still invited me into his office to discuss it. We talked about discipline issues, bullying, and class sizes. And we did it like adults.

When Principal Williams took over, all this changed. We attempted numerous times to get a meeting with her, but couldn’t get one until my wife cornered her at an open house and pretty much demanded a meeting. We expressed some concerns we had and were “assured” that she would do her best to work with us. When school started, not ONE of the issues we discussed were fixed. Because of the lawsuit, I can’t get more specific than that. But, it was obvious that there was a new sheriff in town and she didn’t much care about parental concerns. The attitude we got was that SHE was top dog and we better get in line. She tried implementing a few other policies we and other parents weren’t happy about and we let her know. Then, the uniform issue came up.

What happened with regard to the uniform issue is well documented. I won’t further elaborate due to possible legal action to be taken on my behalf. I will say that the school system continues to shoot itself in the foot every time they open their mouth about this. The truth will come out, I promise you. I have lived my life dedicated to the principles of honor, integrity, personal courage, and duty. It is the duty of every American to stand against any out of control government system, especially when that system is charged with the education and care of our children. We surrender our kids to the schools for eight hours a day, five days a week most weeks. We expect that those charged with this sacred responsibility at least respect the opinions and contributions of the parents, their employers, at all times. Every government employee must understand this obligation to the people no matter how large or small their charge.

As a Soldier, I am charged to defend the citizens of this nation and will do so to the death if needed. I will never place them in danger. I pledged an oath to the Constitution of the United States of America and honor that oath to the dying breath if need be. However, I prefer to make the enemy die for their country first.

I, CJ Grisham, do solemnly affirm that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; and that I will obey the orders of the President of the United States and the orders of the officers appointed over me, according to regulations and the Uniform Code of Military Justice. So help me God.

I want to thank the people of Huntsville who have provided so much support to me and my family recently, through their prayers and thoughts. My father, a retired Navy Command Master Chief, taught me early in my career to always makes the hard right decisions over the easy wrong ones. I got where I am today doing just that. I haven’t always made those with whom I work happy, but I’ve never done anything wrong. Some people in the military don’t like being told they’re wrong and they definitely don’t like being told “no” by a junior Soldier. The letters, emails, and phone calls I’ve received have been encouraging since this issue has been made public. I’ve spoken with fellow parents, educators, citizens, and even military officers who have told me face to face they support me. I can’t thank you all enough and I’ll forever remember Huntsville as a supportive and patriotic city.

I’m not a coward. I can’t tell you how many people have suggested I simply give up and save my career while on active duty. They tell me I shouldn’t make waves until I retire, then I can speak up all I want. That isn’t my style. I don’t want to leave behind a worse off Army. I don’t want to leave behind a worse off country. I’m a right and wrong guy, not shades of gray. When I see something wrong, I seek to fix it. I don’t ignore it and leave it for the next person to deal with. That causes me a lot of stress, but my hope is that it eases someone else’s. I’ve never done it before and I won’t start now.

The way I see it, a school system that doesn’t listen to parents – and in fact seeks to destroy them – that disagree with them is a problem. A school system that is inclined to ignore parents while supporting their own at all costs is a problem. A school system that values relationship with companies over relationships with citizens is a problem. I tried fixing these problems within the system, filing official complaints and working my way up the school’s “chain of command.” My official complaints – required by policy to be answered – went ignored. Other parents’ official complaints went ignored. More than ten of them were filed with Dr. Shipman and nothing ever came of any of them. I spoke before the board both publicly and behind closed doors on numerous occasions trying to resolve my issues and those of other parents but nothing ever came of it. I tried to make it easy to make this all go away by simply asking for an apology and a covenant to listen to parents in the future, but nothing ever came of it.

I’ve been backed into corner from which the only escape is possible litigation. I’m thankful and relieved that the law offices of Wolfe, Jones, Wolfe, Hancock & Daniel, specifically Wayne Wolfe and Joel Jaqubino, have agreed to take this case and have expressed optimism about it. I couldn’t have asked for better representation or more competent legal professionals.

The Wives Who Wait (T’was the Night Before Christmas)

The poem below was written for a friend during her first Christmas away from her husband while he was deployed. My friend, Aprille, shared at christianmilitarywives.com and I wanted to share it here. Her mother wrote it and I thought it was very poignant and empathetic.

I hope you are all having a good Christmas season. If your loved one is deployed, I pray that you are surrounded by loving and supportive family and friends. I also pray that your time of reunification with your soldier comes soon.

The Wives Who Wait

Twas the night before Christmas
And there all alone
I saw a young woman
Who sat by the phone

For what was she waiting
On this holiday night
Where were the stockings
Christmas tree, lights?

I saw one little tear
As it rolled down her face
And she curled up in a blanket
Then looked round the place

Something was missing
Someone not here
In her face I saw sadness
Did I also see fear?

I paused and I wondered
What could it be?
That would cause a young woman
To look so lonely

How could anyone so precious
Choose such a life?
Then I realized this woman
Was a soldiers wife.

Her gift for this Christmas
Is to hear that phone ring
“Hey baby, I miss you
Don’t worry about a thing”

Each day I thank God for the soldiers that serve
Ever willing to fight and lay down his life
But how often do I ever remember think
About the young woman who is that soldier’s wife

Thank you God for these women
They are just as strong
They sacrifice daily
And without help get along

So God please protect our soldiers
On this holiday eve so late
And give an extra hug
To their wives who wait

(written by Jeannie Lining, my mom, during OEF deployment 2008)

The Four Chaplains and Me

How many mistresses has Tiger Woods had? I bet our society knows more about the bed hopping habits of this ace golfer than they know about the heroic acts of our military chaplains. I feel qualified to say this because I can be counted among the many who were unaware of the acts of bravery and valor that are performed by the Cloth of our Military.

Last week when we were on Ft. Jackson looking for things to do together while on base, we decided to visit the Chaplain Museum there. Ft. Jackson is where the Army Chaplains all go for their training. Pretty soon, if not already, it will be where all three branches of Military Chaplains will go for training. While we were there we were blessed to meet a wonderful Chaplain who showed us the construction going on of the Air Force and Navy wings of the Chaplain school. The Marines and Coast Guard are served by the Naval Chaplains.

While we were at the Chaplain Museum we carefully read the stories of valor, honor and courage that were told in each display. One story, in particular, really captured my mind and my spirit as I read it. I have tried to find more about the story and fortunately there are several sites that have done a good job preserving the eye witness accounts of the act of love, bravery, and valor of the “Four Chaplains” and the sinking of the Dorchester.

As I read on I learned that these men ministered to scared young sailors through the night as they sat in the water and waited for a torpedo to hit them. They knew it was coming, but they had to sit and wait for the noise that they dreaded to hear. At 1 am the dreaded moment came and a torpedo ripped through the belly of the ship. The story continues on and ends with the Four  Chaplains taking off their own life vests and handing them to the men they loved and ministered to. Needless to say I walked away with a huge conviction brewing in my soul. No one can really look at that kind of bravery and walk away unchallenged. My ego was humbled greatly as I contemplated their sacrifice and then thought of the petty things I get so wrapped up in on a day to day basis.
ww2_chaplainsGod help us when we forget these acts. These are the men we should be learning about. Men like these heroes are the ones we should strive to emulate. Who do I want my children to remember when they think about American History and American heroes? Tiger Woods or Rabbi Alexander Goode, Reverend George L. Fox, Revernd Clark V. Poling and Father John P. Washington. It’s no contest in our home.

Below is one account. Also on the website is a recording of eye witness accounts to the selfless love and sacrifice performed by these four men. Click on the link below the excerpt and hear first hand accounts of these wonderful men.

On January 23, 1943, the USAT Dorchester left New York harbor bound for Greenland carrying 902 officers, servicemen and civilian workers. The Dorchester was escorted by three Coast Guard cutters. On February 2, one of the cutters detected the presence of a submarine but failed to find the submarine’s position. The C.O. of the Dorchester ordered the men to sleep in their clothing, with life jackets close at hand. They were only 150 miles from Greenland and daylight would bring air cover from the American base.

Down in the old converted cruise ship’s stifling hold, four U.S. Army chaplains circulated among the frightened young men, some lying wide-eyed in their bunks, others nervously playing cards or shooting dice.Those chaplains were Lt. George L. Fox, Methodist; Lt. Alexander D. Goode, Jewish; Lt. John P. Washington, Catholic; and Lt. Clark V. Poling, Reformed. Chatting with the troops, the chaplains eased tensions, calmed fears and passed out soda crackers to alleviate seasickness.

Early in the morning of February 3 the chaplains were still up just before 1:00 when the torpedo struck. The missile exploded in the boiler room, destroying the electric supply and releasing suffocating clouds of steam and ammonia gas.The tremendous explosion threw soldiers from bunks and the lights went out as the stricken ship listed to starboard, sinking fast.

Those not trapped below rushed topside. Amid the shriek of escaping steam and frantic blasts of the ship’s whistle, dazed men stumbled about the dark, crowded decks. Some gripped the rails, too struck with horror to head toward the lifeboats.

The four chaplains quickly moved among the bewildered men, calming them, directing them to life rafts, urging them to escape the doomed ship. Many had forgotten their life jackets. The chaplains located a supply in a deck locker and passed them out. When the bin was empty they pulled off their own and made others put them on.

Only two of the 14 lifeboats were successfully used in abandoning ship. Soldiers leaped into the icy sea. They clutched the gunwales of the two overloaded lifeboats, clung to doughnut-like rafts or floated alone. Some men were insulated by the thick fuel oil that coated them and floated in lifejackets for eight hours.

The four chaplains remained on the ship’s slanted aft deck, standing together, arms linked, heads bowed in prayer, as the Dorchester slipped beneath the waves. Their sacrifice would be remembered as one of the most touching stories of the Second World War, and their legacy continues to this day.

CLICK FOR MORE AND THE AUDIO ACCOUNT

Another Good Site

Lucky Dog vendor, threatened, puts Marine training to work

H/T to my good friend Greta from www.kissmygumbo.com for this terrific story.

Roy Lee Gant, a Lucky Dog vendor in the French Quarter, may look like an easy mark for an armed robber.

He wears a candy-cane-striped button-up shirt. He wheels around sausage and condiments to sell in a 1,200-pound cart shaped like a ballpark wiener, opting to make ends meet in the manner of Ignatius J. Reilly in “A Confederacy of Dunces.”

None of that oozes toughness. But Gant is a former Marine, trained in hand-to-hand combat. And a 42-year-old man accused of attempting to rob Gant at knifepoint the night of Dec. 5 found that out too late, New Orleans police say.

Gant, 33, a St. Louis native, peddled his Lucky Dogs from the corner of Royal and Iberville streets about 9 p.m. that night, a Saturday. A man strolled up to his cart and asked him for a dollar.

Gant declined, thinking, “Hell, no. I’ve hardly sold a hot dog, yet you want money — when you can be out here working the same as I am?”

The 5-foot-8, 155-pound man then shoved his face closely to Gant’s and said, “If you don’t give me a dollar, I’m going to take it.”

Gant declined again. The two shoved each other. The man, miffed, walked away.

According to a police report filed in court, the man returned to the street corner about 11:50 p.m. He drew a knife, stood alongside Gant, reached across his body and with his right hand pressed the blade’s edge against the vendor’s throat, hissing, “Remember me?”

This time, the panhandler demanded all the money, Gant said.

Gant, however, had seen the man walk next to him out of the corner of his eye. The knifeman had barely pressed the blade against the wiener vendor’s throat when Gant lifted his right arm. He grabbed the man’s right wrist and pulled the blade away.

Then, with his left arm, he gripped the knifeman’s forearm to push the blade farther away. He freed his right hand.

“Call the police!” Gant shouted to a crowd of people streaming into a nearby drug store. “Please, call the police!”

The two wrestled. While struggling to keep the blade at bay with his left hand, Gant elbowed and punched his attacker’s body and face with his right arm and hand.

Gant sensed the robber lose his balance. He reached for the man’s crotch and lifted him up, still holding onto one of his arms with his left hand.

Gant then slammed the robber face-first off the curb, gashing his attacker’s forehead wide open.

“He definitely messed with the wrong Lucky Dog guy,” said Joni Mount, Gant’s girlfriend and fellow vendor. “Why did he even come back? How stupid is he?”

Gant kicked the blade away from the robber’s grasp and pinned him face-down with his arms and knees. A bystander waved down a passing police cruiser.

By the time the officer pulled up to investigate, the knifeman had passed out, the report stated. Paramedics later arrived and took the accused robber, identified as Gregory S. Garmany of the 1800 block of Gravier Street, to Interim LSU Public Hospital for stitches.

Gant, meanwhile, tore a ligament in his right pinky and later scheduled a surgery.

When doctors released the swollen-eyed, scraped-up Garmany, officers booked him with one count of attempted armed robbery, according to the report. He remained behind bars Wednesday in lieu of $50,000 bail.

Police officials routinely discourage citizens from resisting armed robbers because of the risk. But Gant said he reacted “instinctively.” He learned the basics of hand-to-hand combat while at Camp Pendleton, Calif., with his Marine battalion.

“My reaction was just to defend myself,” Gant said.

It was Gant’s second brush with crime since he moved to New Orleans from St. Louis in February, originally in search of work on tugboats. He sold hot dogs in the 400 block of Bourbon Street the night of Nov. 29, when five men were sprayed with bullets after an argument.

Despite his lackluster welcome to the city, Gant said he had no immediate plans to abandon his tugboat work or his spot behind the Lucky Dog cart.

He said, “I try not to think about (the danger). … People just need to keep their eyes open.”

You Served Radio Dec10th Live Blog

7:56:32 PM: New blog entry: You Served Radio Dec10th Live Blog http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/?p=3763

8:05:01 PM: Just finished the pledge and disclaimer

8:20:54 PM: Talking to Derek Scholl

8:21:54 PM: Derek’s site is http://bit.ly/2H4CIo

8:24:34 PM: Derek’s grandfather served and had a friend of his son’s killed in Iraq

8:29:23 PM: @DerekSholl is working with @warriororg

8:35:46 PM: @DerekSholl has 3 albums out

8:37:50 PM: @DerekSholl is going to be at a @warriororg fund-raiser in Houston

8:41:17 PM: @DerekSholl has worked with US Chamber of Commerce on Hiring out Heroes

8:54:27 PM: now talking to author James Christ

8:57:50 PM: James is writing the book now about the korengal

9:02:17 PM: Search for James F. Christ on Amazon and you will find the books that James has written

9:31:03 PM: Talk to Paul Zuzzio who was an ETT from 06-07 and was interviewed by james

9:49:59 PM: Now talking to @tobynunn from @soldiersangels about the latest happenings

9:53:47 PM: @soldiersangels raised over 6 figures in donations for wounded warriors #valourit

10:02:00 PM: Troy and Marcus rocked the show tonight

10:02:17 PM: Thanks to Derek, James, Paul and Toby for being on You Served Radio.

10:02:23 PM: Goodnight all

CJ media roundup

A sampling of recent mentions concerning CJ’s latest battle, most in reaction to the Military Times article, “The rise and fall of a military blogger“:

And listen to CJ on The Dale Jackson Show tomorrow at 7:05 & 8:05 am CST.

Free Military Careers in IT Webinar

“Careers in IT” is a free webinar sponsored by American Sentinel University and hosted by Lt. Col. Paul Capicik, U.S. Air Force (Ret.).  Lt. Col. Capicik will be presenting about careers in information technology specifically directed at members of the military. He’ll discuss a number of issues including possible career paths, career progression and advancement, what it takes to succeed in IT, and also respond to questions from the attendees.

The webinar will be held on Tuesday, December 15th, 1 pm CST.  Those interested in registering should visit: https://www1.gotomeeting.com/register/647951273    

About Lt. Col Paul Capicik:  Lt. Col. Capicik spent over 26 years in the U.S. Air Force and another 12 years directing a wide variety of IT-related projects as the CIO of a private sector company. He wrote a series of articles for American Sentinel University detailing many of the topics he will discuss in the webinar. You can visit the University blog at http://www.americansentinel.edu/blog/ to read the article series if you’re interested.

Family Day was… umm, interesting.

We made it to family day at Ft. Jackson this past Thursday and Friday. I think my past experiences have colored the expectations I had painted in my mind. Now this is most definitely not my first family day or graduation experience. Between brothers, sons, and husband I have been to many across the branches. This one, however, left me mentally exhausted.

My handsome soldier!

My handsome soldier!

It wasn’t that they graduated an entire battalion at once (1300 soldiers and around 8000 family members ON post for Family Day!!) Granted those things played into wearing me out over the two days of driving around Columbia SC and Ft. Jackson — needless to say it gets a little crowded when you stay on base with about 9000 of your new closest friends!

The show for family day was … as the title says, “umm, interesting.” Each family day/graduation I have been to involves some sort of skit. I have never quite understood why anyone would assume that a stand full of anxious family members would want to watch simulated battle. Trust me when I say that neurotic mothers across the Country have played out every possible battle scene in their heads and they are still more grand than any skit the Army can throw at you.

This little skit really took me back though. The last two skits I watched were at Ft. Benning. We saw purple and green smoke… big “boom” sounds and guys coming out with AK47s aimed at the crowd. No one ever cowers. We trust and know they are not real, and even if they were we trust the proficiency and professionalism of our soldiers. That’s not the issue. The family day skit I watched last Thursday had a simulated battle scene that included a soldier falling to the ground after taking a hit (I assumed it was from a bullet).

The soldier lay face down as the rest of the unit secured the scene. The soldier lay face down as they checked the terrorist for further explosives and to see if they were alive. The soldier lay face down while they did the rest of their maneuvers. The point is the soldier was face down and I could not take my eyes off of him.

As a blue star mother who is now deep into the second deployment I can not tell you how many times I have had to actively fight anticipatory stress and the images that are associate with it. I can not tell you how many times I have read stories, real stories, about battle scenes and had to fight the vision of my own soldier’s face being toward the ground in that very scenario.

I don’t know. I felt that 30 minutes or so that I watched a scene I would rather not have had to watch was wasted when it could have been spent reuniting with my son. In all honesty that’s what family day is all about, isn’t it? I know my soldier may one day have to fight in a real war. Maybe I am the odd woman out, but I don’t need the simulated scenes to help me feel engaged. Just give me some time, my soldier, and a place to talk.

I jokingly told my soldier to let his chain of command know that perhaps a chorus line of dancing soldiers would be more entertaining. He said that doesn’t brief well. I guess it depends on your perspective.

Regardless, we went. We saw him. We spent time with him. We heard his stories. We told him what has happened since he left for training. Really, this is what it’s all about. All of the loud noises, drama, and guns aside, you learn quickly that what matters most is taking time in those small moments to just listen to his voice, memorize his smile, and thank God for measuring time in seconds and minutes.

Some more from Gitmo

Yesterday I put up a posting with the link to a video that I said was the 2nd in a video diary from Bill Whittle from PJTV. I was mistaken, as even though that was from the Gitmo trip that Bill did with Bridge of Sighs, Perk, and Steven Crowder, it was not part of his actual Video Diary. Below is the link to the newly released Part 2 of Bill’s video diary from their November Gitmo trip and this one is by far the best.

It is worth the 13 min to watch it.

http://www.pjtv.com/v/2756

Did you know, Retirees and Vets allowed to Salute Flag?