Monthly Archives: June 2009

Introducing Ask a Marine

Welcome to Ask a Marine! I will start taking questions about the Marine Corps on a weekly basis. If you would like to know something about the Marine Corps, feel free to email me (marcus at soldiersperspective.us) and your question could be the next Ask a Marine topic.

I’ll pose the first question to myself. What is the history of the Marine Corps dress blue uniform? Check back tomorrow to see the answer!

Operation Shower

I love finding creative and innovative ways to support fellow military members and their families. This is one of those occasions! I came across this doing an internet search a while back on support opportunities. If you are interested in helping this organization, it sounds like baby items are the number one need (makes sense!) Visit their website that is linked below and you will find a great list already for you to buy from as a donation. If you are pregnant military spouse and your husband is deployed, you may qualify for this type of support.

The following is taken from their website.

Showers

WHAT IS A UNIT WIDE SHOWER?

A unit-wide shower is a great event! Operation Shower’s goal with a unit-wide shower is to show our appreciation to expectant mothers who have spouses serving overseas during their pregnancies. After gathering donations, Operation Shower prepares a shower in a box for each mom-to-be in a chosen unit of the military. The showers in a box are then delivered by the Operation Shower stork at an Operation Shower baby shower for the entire group of moms. It is a wonderful celebration for these deserving families.

Shower in a BoxWHAT IS A SHOWER IN A BOX?

A shower in a box is a wonderful way to shower a miltary mom! Operation Shower gathers donations for a particular mom-to-be whose spouse is deployed during her pregnancy. After gathering enough wonderful donations to fill a large box and packing it with festive paper and ribbons, the Operation Shower stork delivers the box to the unsuspecting mom-to-be!

HOW CAN YOU HELP?

There are many ways to contribute to a shower in a box:

  • Donate new goods for the mom or baby;
  • Donate money;
  • Join with a group and sponsor a box to be sent by your group; and
  • Host a shower or party and collect/donate goods for a shower in a box.

See the Contribute page to donate.

It is a wonderful surprise and a great way to show our support for the mothers who are at home caring for the family while their spouses are deployed and serving our country.

Please email Lena at lena@lenasnotebook.com or Kris at kris@cleverparents.com if you are interested in donating to a shower in a box or if you know of someone who should be the recipient of a shower in a box.

Find out what you can do to support their efforts!

Mom to mom, can we talk?

I was in the garden section the other day at a local store when a I saw a dear friend approaching. She smiled and I smiled back. Her son just left for Army BCT a week ago. We started talking about gardening, and then she said “I need to talk with you! I don’t know anything about this Army stuff!” I felt so honored and we set a time for a chat.

When my son went in I didn’t even know there was a national organization for Blue Star Mothers. I was very uneducated on being a military parent. Blue star parents need information. When a soldier is unmarried, more often than not, his mother and/or father will become the primary support for him. They will be the ones managing his affairs stateside when he’s deployed and they will be the ones to candidly make the funeral arrangement details before he ships off. Since my husband joined after my son, I literally had no idea what to expect as a parent. I had other family members who have served, but being a mother of a soldier is quite an honor and a special position.

I am told “there is information out there geared for parents of soldiers.” Well, maybe there is, but it is not obvious. My husband swears that Recruiters give these young recruits a packet of information for their parents. I don’t know a single Blue Star mom who has really seen this elusive packet filled with the knowledge and wisdom we seek. Usually all we get is a ship date, and maybe a bag or t-shirt if he didn’t want it.

There are sites and resources on line. I would have to say that blogs were the number one source of information for me — that is until I became a military spouse. Once my husband was in the system the flood gates of information opened and I finally had some resources at my fingertips. I had names, numbers, accounts, and everything I needed to make informed decisions. Now, I know and understand why a military spouse would have greater access to information than a mother or father, grandparent or sibling of a soldier, but a little more than nothing would be nice.

Back to my friend. She had the look. You know the one I am talking about — the one that says “My son has vanished into thin air, I got a 2-minute phone call and I don’t think I’ll ever see him again…” It feels that way at first. I am going to list the topics we talked about during our chat, and then over the course of the next couple of weeks I am going to expound on each of them. This post will be updated with the links to the various related posts. Here are the topics we covered in our “Blue Star Mom to Blue Star Mom” luncheon.

1.   Stages of BCT and what he will be learning.

2.  What is AIT and when does it happen?

3.  What if he gets injured in training?

4.  After AIT what is next?

5. Will he have to deploy to Iraq or Afghanistan? If so, when will he get orders?

6. What is my role as a parent in supporting my soldier?

Also, if you read this blog and you would like your own Blue Star parent question answered, please feel free to post it here or write to me at claire@kneedeepinthehooah.com I do not know all of the answers by any stretch of the imagination, but I will be researching them and asking those who do know a LOT more about it than I do…  (you know guys like CJ and Troy!)

Eight Ways to Save at Restaurants

As much as I try to limit our restaurant eating, there are three events that seem to increase the number of times we eat out:  birthdays, traveling, and moving.  With four kids and two adults, eating in restaurants gets expensive pretty quickly.  There are a couple of strategies that we use to make sure that our final bill doesn’t exceed our budget.  Check them out: 

  1. Choose your restaurants wisely.  Ask around, search the internet, or check the local family magazine for good choices.  Our family is fond of Friendly’s (mostly because the kids get ice cream with their meals.)  Look for special nights such as half price burgers or all-you-can-eat pasta. 
  2. Drink water.  We do let the kids get drinks if they are included in the kids’ meal, but the grownups usually stick to water, with the occasional splurge on iced tea or coffee (free refills!). 
  3. Check for deals.  Resort towns usually have a lot of newspaper offers, especially in the freebie mags in the hotel foyers.  You might find early birds or similar promotions in regular newspapers. Many restaurants, especially chains, offer printable on-line coupons at their websites. 
  4. Keep an eye out for “kids eat free” offers.  I usually google the name of the town plus “kids eat free.”  There are a couple of websites that are trying to put together a comprehensive list of kids eat free offers:  Kids Eat 4 Free, MyKidsEatFree, and Coupon Diva’s Kids Eat Free page are the best country-wide sites I’ve found so far.  Always call ahead to verify that they’re still offering the deal.  Most end at age 10 or 12, and they usually have a limit of one or two free kids’ meals with each adult entree purchased. 
  5. Join restaurant birthday clubs.  Many restaurants offer birthday deals, and you can sign up for the chain restaurant’s lists online.  Freebies4Mom has a comprehensive list on their Birthday Freebies page.  Some offers will have short expiration dates, but others will be good for a long time.  I sign up each member of my family, and keep the offers in my glove box when we travel or move.  Sometimes we are only able to use one or two coupons on a visit, but I’ve been known to get lucky and use four at a time!  (I always ask to use all that I have – the worst they can do is say “no.” 
  6. Consider purchasing an Entertainment book, which offers 2-for-1 dining and a variety of other substantial discounts.  The books are good from their publishing in August through the following November, for a total of 15 months.  They are a little pricey, at a regular price of $25-$40 per book, but the price starts to go down before Christmas and continues to drop through the summer.  Check this list to see if books are available for the area in which you live, travel or move to!  From this page, you can look at the offers available in each individual book and see if it would work for you.  I have heard people say that they would never get their money’s worth out of an Entertainment book, but I can’t imagine how that is true.  My local book retails for $30 (but I can get it for $20 if I wait a couple of months) and includes $20 in local grocery store coupons on the front page.  Add in one nice restaurant meal and I’ve paid for the book already.  In addition, I find that the Entertainment book offers for hotels and rental cars are often the best deals I can find.  
  7. Order wisely.  Even if you’re just getting pizza or driving through a fast food place, take a moment to consider your options.  Would three medium pizzas be cheaper than two large?  Can you split an entree, or order an appetizer for your meal? 
  8. Hit the buffet line.  Chinese buffets are a favorite in my family, but other kinds of buffets can also work well.  While you won’t find the most elegant food on your average buffet, they do usually include a nice variety of fresh fruits and vegetables, plus enough variety to please even your pickiest eater.  Lunch buffets are less expensive than dinner buffets, and children’s prices are almost always based upon age.

As you can see, there are many ways to keep restaurant dining affordable.  Combine a couple of strategies to make sure that your next trip, celebration or move doesn’t break the bank.

Family Readiness and L.I.N.K.S.

As I mentioned a couple of days ago, the last eight years has required all the military services to examine old principles and update them for the current conflict. Family readiness is no exception.

Marine Corps Community Services, the folks who run all Marine exchanges and clubs, started a program called L.I.N.K.S. to educate Marines and their family members about the Marine Corps. Sessions are targeted towards Marines, spouses, or children.

I’ve had the privilege of teaching L.I.N.K.S. for Marines and L.I.N.K.S. for Spouses as part of my duties as a Career Retention Specialist. I very much enjoy teaching Marines and Spouses about the benefits of staying the Marine Corps and about the retention process. Some Marines and their spouses have no clue what is involved with staying the Marine Corps. By teaching this course, Marines and spouses are better educated and can make well-informed decisions as to the future of their career.

L.I.N.K.S. also teaches sound financial security principles, which is very important to families. The hardships of deployments and where spouses can find support during these trying times is also focused on. Other stressful situations, such as moving, are explained with tips to make these times a bit easier.

Many other topics are covered and I encourage you to visit MCCS’s L.I.N.K.S. page to find out more information. For Marines and Marine Spouses, you can find the point of contact for L.I.N.K.S. in your area by visiting the Schedules page.

On Loan at You Served Welcomes former Iraq Resident Dr. Diane Hassan

She’s new to the blogosphere, but we’re fortunate enough at You Served to give Dr. Diane Hassan a shot as she brings a unique perspective of Iraq from an American’s point of view – she lived in Baghdad for 17 years.

Married to Dr. Hashim Hassan, a native Iraqi, Hassan grew up in Dothan, Alabama before years later becoming the first American to graduate from the University of Baghdad’s College of Medicine.

Hassan wrote a book, “Angels Among Us Even in Iraq” that details her time in Iraq and illustrates that “people are the same all over the world; we just speak a different language.”

Hassan lived through the Iraq-Iran War and the first Desert Storm War. It was finally in 1993 when her family opted to move back to the United States, a move that almost cost her husband his life after Saddam Hussein tried to have him killed. Hassan speaks to that example of angels watching over her family.

Hassan has in important message for readers of her first-time blog – the importance of freedom.

“Freedom isn’t free,” she said, “people take things for granted and need to realize we have continue to fight for our freedom.”

Army releases May suicide data

The Army released suicide data for the month of May today, reporting one confirmed suicide and 16 potential suicides among active duty soldiers.

In the April report, the Army reported seven active duty potential suicides. Since that time an additional suicide was reported, for a total of eight April potential suicides, three of which have been confirmed and five remain under investigation. There have been 82 reported active duty suicides in the Army during calendar year 2009. Of these, 45 have been confirmed as suicides, and 37 are pending final determination of manner death. For the same period in 2008, there were 51 suicides among active duty soldiers.

During May 2009, among reserve component soldiers who are not on active duty, there was one confirmed suicide and seven potential suicides; to date in 2009, among that same group, there have been 16 confirmed suicides, and 21 potential suicides are currently under investigation. For the same period in 2008, there were 23 suicides among reserve soldiers who were not on active duty.

In January, the Army implemented an Army-wide effort to combat the rise of suicide in its ranks. The Army mandated a suicide prevention stand-down that involved all 1.1 million soldiers; established a Suicide Prevention Task Force; has made dozens of improvements to Army policies, procedures and resources; and recruited additional psychological and behavioral health counselors.

"We have got to do better," said Army Vice Chief of Staff Gen. Peter W. Chiarelli, "It’s clear we have not found full solutions to this yet. But we are trying every remedy and seeking help from outside agencies that are experts in suicide prevention. There isn’t a reasonable suicide prevention tool out there the Army won’t potentially employ."

The Army’s Suicide Prevention Task Force is focused on rapid improvements across the spectrum of health promotion, risk reduction and suicide prevention to ensure the Army’s programs in these areas are coordinated, fully-resourced, and effective.

"As hard as this problem truly is, in some ways it is also very basic, because it requires caring for soldiers, and that’s something we already know how to do," said Brig. Gen. Colleen McGuire, director, Army Suicide Prevention Task Force. "We must simultaneously get back to basics and optimize current programs to set conditions for future programs to tackle this problem."

The Army has identified additional crisis intervention resources available to the Army community. Soldiers and families in need of crisis assistance are strongly encouraged to contact Military OneSource or the Defense Center of Excellence for Psychological Health and Traumatic Brain Injury Outreach Center (DCoE). Trained consultants are available from both organizations 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

The Military OneSource toll-free number for those residing in the continental United States is 1-800-342-9647, the Military One Source Web site can be found at http://www.militaryonesource.com. Overseas personnel should refer to the Military OneSource Web site for dialing instructions for their specific location.

The DCoE Outreach Center can be contacted at 1-866-966-1020, or at http://www.dcoe.health.mil/media/DCoE_News/DCoE_Outreach_Center.aspx.

The Army’s most current suicide prevention information is located at http://www.armyg1.army.mil/hr/suicide/.

06/11/09 You Served Radio Live Blog

7:09:22 PM: You Served Radio is talking with Cowboy Crus tonight

7:11:16 PM: Cowboy Crush is a female trio of a group

06/11/09 You Served Radio Live Blog

7:09:22 PM: You Served Radio is talking with Cowboy Crus tonight

7:11:16 PM: Cowboy Crush is a female trio of a group

7:11:34 PM: New blog entry: 06/11/09 You Served Radio Live Blog http://bit.ly/z0pFX

7:11:35 PM: New blog entry: 06/11/09 You Served Radio Live Blog http://bit.ly/Fyspz

7:11:55 PM: You can check out their website at http://www.cowboycrush.com

7:13:20 PM: all 3 women of Cowboy Crush have military in their family

7:18:31 PM: We are listening to Cowboy Crush’s “He’s coming home”

7:21:50 PM: Cowboy Crush is releasing their first CD in September

7:26:17 PM: Cowboy Crush jumped with the US Army Golden Nights

7:31:58 PM: Cowboy Crush is in Nashville this weekend for CMA Fest

7:41:04 PM: Cowboy Crush is taking calls

7:41:48 PM: come on over to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/youserved to listen to the show, or http://www.bouhammer.com to listen also.

7:44:02 PM: they are on twitter at twitter.com/cowboycrush

7:44:11 PM: @cowboycrush

8:03:16 PM: The You Served store on ebay gets new items every thursday. Go to ebay, click on “stores” and search for the userved store

8:08:55 PM: Talking with David Bellavia who is Exec Dir of Warrior Legacy Foundation, http://www.warriorlegacyfoundation.com

8:12:25 PM: David Bellavia started Vets For Freedom

8:15:02 PM: David is still on the Board for Vets For Freedom

8:17:15 PM: WLF has started a scholarship foundation that will provide for a Bachelors and Masters degree for 4 kids from soldiers in all branches o …

8:19:06 PM: “Columbine would not have happened had a couple of Marines been teaching in earth science” – David Bellavia

8:20:06 PM: @warriororg is the twitter account of Warrior Legacy Foundation

8:22:19 PM: WLF has partnered with Gathering of Eagles and other organizations that represent vets of past wars

8:26:46 PM: “IVAW and VoteVets is a fraud” – David Bellavia

8:29:07 PM: David agrees with me that PTS is not PTSD

8:33:54 PM: Getting rid of the victimization of soldiers is a goal of Warrior Legacy Foundation

8:44:06 PM: CJ pointed out that the office of the President has not released a press release about the soldiers murdered and wouned by muslim extremist

8:50:31 PM: Just wrapped up with David Bellavia

8:52:17 PM: Talking with You Served guest on loan blogger Kate Kashman about her blog and how blogging on youserved.com has been

8:54:24 PM: Kate’s Blog is called Paycheck Chronicals and is focused on financial matters within the miltiary. It is hosted on military.com

9:09:22 PM: Kate is blogging on YouServed.com for another week.

9:21:04 PM: We wrapped up with Kate and then Marcus joined us to take part in close out of the show. You Served radio is now off the air

Quality of Life for Single Marines

Ask any single Marine what he or she thinks of the barracks and you are very likely to get a negative answer. The Marine Corps has realized that the barracks is a big complaint among enlisted troops and leadership at all levels is tackling this problem head on.

When I lived in the barracks, there wasn’t much as far as amenities in the room or out. Rooms were small, furniture aging, and infrastructure such as heat and air was prone to failure. Over the last several years, the Marine Corps has placed barracks renovations and new construction very high on the list of priorities.

Rooms are getting more spacious, higher quality infrastructure is being installed, and the grounds around the barracks are becoming places to enjoy time with comrades. The placement of grills, basketball and volleyball courts, and other forms of recreation has brought Marines out of their rooms to enjoy time together and increase unit cohesion.

The Marine Corps is doing the right thing for our single Marines. For years, the mindset of what we have is adequate is being replaced by the mindset of let’s make it better for them. Marines will perform better when they feel they are taken care of on and off duty, and a big part of taking care of Marines is where they live.

This first step in making the lives of single Marines better is a great step forward. Let’s hope the Marine Corps continues these steps.