Monthly Archives: April 2009

First Photos Of Dover

The first photos are starting to emerge since the SecDef announced that he was lifting the ban on allowing media coverage of repatriation of servicemember remains at the Air Force base. I’m taking a wait and see stance. On one hand, I’m glad that the American people will get to see the honor that our troops receive when they are returned to American soil. On the other hand, I’m apprehensive about the media actually giving it the respect and honor due it.

I’ve got a suggestion for our media. Instead of scrambling, whining, moaning, and complaining that you haven’t been able to film these arrivals, how about you start actually telling these fallen heroes’ stories as well?!

dover media ban repatriation of remains dead Soldiers

April is Month of the Military Child

April is designated as the month when the children of our warriors are acknowledged and appreciated for their sacrifices as their father or mother spend months and years away from the home fighting for our Country.

Through out this month my posts will focus on resources, stories, and articles about military children. I wanted to start this week off with a song written by a young teenage girl with the help of her father.

Here’s Alyssa Gaddis’ (7th grader) account of writing the lyrics to the song “The Price of Peace” with her father CW5 Jim Gaddis.


The Price of Peace:

One day while watching my Dad leaving for work in his uniform, I realized that most people don’t understand what the families go through when their loved ones go off to war. I wrote this song from my heart on a daughters perspective of what it is like when her Dad goes off to war. The Price of Peace is a great song that has a message of love and support for any loved one in the military.

I sat down one night and wrote it with my dad’s help. I didn’t realize my dad knew so much about it until he started telling me about the deployment ceremonies he has attended. He told me how the soldiers families and the children clutched their dad’s neck and cried unashamed. This really hit home for me. I know it has to be hard for any family to watch a loved one or a friend go off to war. It is hard to understand how they feel everyday as they wake up praying that their loved one is ok. When people listen to this song I hope it moves them to a better understanding of what a military family has to cope with. The song also tells how a family sticks together and realizes God has a reason and purpose for all things.

Alyssa Gaddis
7th Grade

Here are the lyrics and a link to the song online. It’s very moving, and I openly admit that it easily brought me to tears — just a warning for those of you who may have to keep your composure. It’s well done and considering the age of the child who wrote it makes it very special.

Price of Peace
Gaddis/Steen 08

Standing at the gate knowing I couldn’t wave enough
No matter what it’s gonna be tough
For a girl to say goodbye to her daddy’s smile is rough
Can’t cover it up
That’s how much you love,
Having him there for dances, dinners, for you
When your off fighting dad we’re fighting to see you soon

Chorus

The price of peace is paid by the families on their knees praying tonight
By the soldiers feet on some foreign street just trying to save a life
By a daughters tears as she sees her hero do what he thinks is right
The loss may run deep but if it’s love we leave
Well that’s the price of peace

Its hard that he’s gone the moments go on nonstop
Think about him a lot but for him its more than just a job
So the comfort for me in his letters each week is I know he knows
I cant wait til hes home so I can hug him
Have him hold me and not let me loose
When he’s told you don’t be sad
Hope is all you can do

Chorus

Bridge
The countdown goes from months to weeks to days
Time stands still the longer you have to wait
Please God show me how to be patient
I cant wait til then turns to now

Chorus

Now I’m standin’ at the gate knowing I can’t wave enough…

LINK TO SONG

LTC Sues University of Washington For Discrimination

More left coast insanity!

SEATTLE – An U.S. Army reservist is suing the University of Washington, accusing the institution of harassment and discrimination for serving in the Iraq war.

A report on seattlepi.com says that Army Reserve Lt. Col. James Lukehart has been employed at the university since 1992 as an electrician and had risen through the ranks to maintenance manager.

In the suit filed in King County Superior Court, Lukehart says that co-workers told him he would be engaging in an immoral action by serving in Iraq. Also, the university launched into allegations of misconduct while Lukehart was deployed.

Lukehart contends he was forced to take a pay cut and demotion to keep his job.

UW spokesman Norm Arkans says that Lukehart’s demotion had nothing to do with his service in Iraq.

The End Of Terrorism

This past week, I got my official marching orders from the military: we are no longer to call it the “War on Terrorism” or “Global War on Terrorism”. The new official term is “Overseas Contingency Operations”. I no longer has access to GWOT funds to conduct my missions. They are now called OCOF , (Overseas Contingency Operations Funds). This obviously begs a lot of questions to be asked.

If we can no longer use the term terrorism, how will be conduct counter-terrorism operations? What do we call terrorists? In the interest of public clarification, I’d like to offer the new Obama Dictionary of Former Terrorist Terms and their new translations.

Global War on Terrorism = Overseas Contingency Operations
Terrorism = no longer exists, strike from English vocabulary unless talking about the Bush administration
Terrorists = Overseas Contingency Operators or Obama’s Base
Domestic Terrorism = Domestic Bushism
Terrorist Cells = Moveon.org PACs
9/11 Terrorist Attacks = The Great Misunderstanding

And now what are we going to call terrorist attacks here at home? Will we call them Domestic Contingency Operations? And why stop with redefining terrorism? Let’s redefine other national security crimes against our country as well. May I suggest the following renaming of terms?

Espionage should now be called Foreign Derived Stealth Peeks. Sedition will be addressed as Alternative Democracy. Subversion will be added to the Constitution as an addition to the Bill of Rights and no longer made illegal provided such previously considered activities that were defined as subversion are directed against the war, gays in the military, or speaking out publicly against the Bush Administration.

Additionally, with the deletion of the term “terrorism” from our vocabulary, we are to immediately provide political sanctuary to the misunderstood souls previously labeled with the obviously defamatory use of said terms and phrases. A portion of New York, Pennsylvania, Massachusetts, New Jersey, Nevada, and half of California will be set aside for these individuals to relocate. All foreclosed properties in said states will be given as reparations for years of bombing, public slander, and torture. The tax code will hereby create a separate category similar to the Native Americans that provides tax exemption to those formerly mislabeled as bad people.

Deployment and the Autistic Child

Advocates for children with autism have worked tirelessly over the past decade to bring an awareness to the general public about the condition. They have also worked very hard to have definitions reflect a broader spectrum of the expression of this disorder. This broadening of the spectrum has allowed for more children to be diagnosed as “autistic” or for having “autistic type” behaviors. With this wider spectrum comes a broader range of services, support and research that is now available to inform practices of parents and practitioners alike.

There are special implication for a child who falls on the autism spectrum and has a parent in the military. These implications are not impossible to overcome and figure out, but they may take a deeper level of consideration when preparing for major changes in the family such as PCSing or deployment.

Autism is defined as: “… a brain development disorder characterized by impaired social interaction and communication, and by restricted and repetitive behavior. These signs all begin before a child is three years old. The autism spectrum disorders (ASD) also include related conditions such as Asperger syndrome that have milder signs and symptoms. Wikipedia

In an article dated 12/08, the following statistics were noted:

According to Pentagon data, there are 13,243 autistic children among the 1.2 million dependents of active duty personnel. This incidence, just over one in ninety, is vastly higher than the conventional wisdom that only one in every 150 children is affected. This apparent increase is almost certainly due to rigorous military record keeping rather than any difference in environment.

The DoD approved (from what I can tell) appropriations in 2007 for further research and services. This money has been approved and increased up to the current budget. Of course the DoD can only offer so much, and just like in any family situation it is up to the parents to make the decision about treatment options once they are made aware of what is available and what is recommended.

The challenges for families seeking treatment will mostly lie within the inability for continuity. One of the prevalent behaviors in autistic children is the inability to adjust quickly to changes. Deployment for the family is certainly a process and not just a single event. The pre-deployment phase consists of varying levels of saying good-bye, coming to terms with your soldier heading to a war zone, shifts in family dynamics, and these are all often brewing in a lot of very normal and natural stress.

There are some steps that families with Autistic children do to help them weather the changes and the phases of deployment and other changes:

* Communicate any upcoming changes with anyone involved with your child. His teacher, therapists, and medical care providers should know if they will be interacting with him. They may also be able to help you put together a transition plan.

* Children with autism often struggle with change and sometimes the biggest battle occurs at the moment of transition (once they are transitioned and settled they often can settle back into regular patterns). Be very mindful about the amount of time and the number of reminders your child needs in order to start acclimating to the idea of an upcoming change.

* Make sure you (the primary caregiver) have a good support network in place. Your child is going to need some extra energy from you until the “new” is settled and familiar. You need to have support so that you do not get burned out. If you get worn out you will not be able to handle the extra demand when it’s really needed. Reach out and make friends. Call your local autism support group and meet other parents who can understand what you are facing.

* When talking about your soldier’s upcoming deployment use consistent words and phrases. Be very concise in what you say and say the same thing every time you remind him. Being “deployed” and “going to Iraq” may be two separate events in a child’s mind.

* Come up with a creative way to put a tangible countdown to deployment and then a countdown to redeployment. Some families use paper chains where each paper link represents a day. Every day one link is ripped off and thrown away. As the link shrinks the days to reuniting is closer.

If you suspect your child has autism, but you have never had him/her evaluated, set up a meeting with your pediatrician to have your concerns addressed. Sometimes a parent has to be the first advocate. If your concerns are not addressed, keep asking and ask for referrals. One of the most consistent findings in autism research is that early intervention affect long term outcomes for the better.

Here are some additional resources:

DoD Special Needs Parent Toolkit

Autism Society of America (ASA)
7910 Woodmont Ave.
Suite 650
Bethesda, MD 20814-3015
Tel: (301) 657-0881
FAX: (301) 657-0869
Info referral telephone number: 1-800-3-AUTISM

http://www.autism-society.org/

Autism National Committee
635 Ardmore Avenue
Ardmore, PA 19003

http://www.autcom.org/

Also known as AUTCOM or ANC

Asperger Syndrome Coalition of the United States (ASC-U.S.)
(formerly ASPEN of America)
P.O. Box 49267
Jacksonville Beach, FL 32240-9267
(904) 745-6741
info@asc-us.org

http://www.asperger.org/

Military Scholarships Offered

It’s April and time for another round of VA Mortgage Center.com’s Military Education Scholarships. As of April 1st, we are again accepting submissions for our bi-yearly program that awards five separate $1,500 scholarships each semester.

Please pass the word along to any active-duty member, Veteran, spouse, or family member. We’ve enjoyed over 1,200 applicants since we launched this program back in April of 2007.

View our essay prompt and complete your submission by May 1st to qualify.

You could be the next winner of a big VAMC check! (*Note: Not all scholarship recipients get a huge, comical check. Some just get the regular size.).

New Dover Media Policy

Recently, Secretary Gates released a new policy on allowing our media circus access to the solemn ceremonies of welcoming home our fallen troops at Dover. While I’ve always leaned more towards keeping the ban, I think this policy actually makes sense. It also raises a few questions that I’ll get to later in the post.

“The core of the policy,” Pentagon spokesman Bryan Whitman said, “is built around the desires of the family members, and it will be the families that decide whether or not media have access to any of these dignified transfers.”

The policy that goes into effect next Monday, April 6, states that reporters would be provided basic information like the name of the service member and an arrival time.

A lot of thought has gone into whether or not this policy should be changed. Thankfully, Gates didn’t work alone and enlisted the help and advice of many family members of fallen troops. Among those, according to the Thunder Run blog, is my good friend Robert Stokely, whom I met and interviewed while writing his son’s story on They Have Names.

No special concessions will be made to account for weather. According to the policy, if the remains arrive during pitch black night sky, the filming conditions will be pitch black night sky. If it is raining, they will film in the rain. No special lighting or garish tents and covers will be provided or permitted while covering repatriation ceremonies.

If a family member approves of media coverage, the Dover Air Force Base public affairs office will post to its Web site that a dignified transfer is to take place. Media will also be able to apply for email subscription service that will provide the same information. Additionally, the military will provide families with copies of the photos or video taken of ceremonies at the family’s request.

The task force worked with various service-support organizations such as the Gold Star Mothers, Gold Star Wives, veterans groups and senior enlisted advisors to come up with the new policy. You can see the full policy letter at the Thunder Run, but here are some additional actions to be taken:

– The undersecretary of defense for personnel and readiness and other Pentagon elements will revise defense regulatory documents to reflect the new policy at Dover;
– Deceased service members’ remains will be transferred from the combat theater of operations to the Dover facility as soon as possible;
– The primary next of kin will make the family’s decision regarding media access to dignified transfer operations at Dover;
– Families of deceased service members will be briefed on the option to allow media coverage of the dignified transfer at the time of notification of the member’s death or as soon as possible thereafter;
– If the primary next of kin permits media access at Dover, reporters will be given the name, rank, military service and hometown of the “believed to be” casualty. A more complete identification of the deceased service member, including unit, place, date and circumstances of death, will be released following the confirmation of the casualty’s identity at the Dover mortuary, and then only 24 hours after the last of the deceased’s next of kin have been notified of the loss; and
– Primary next of kin and two other family members may travel to Dover at department expense to observe the dignified transfer operation. The services may fund the travel of additional family members on a case-by-case basis.

So, here’s my question and concern with this new policy. What if multiple remains are brought back on the same flight and not all the families approve of media coverage? How will this be handled? I am working to get Secretary Gates on our You Served Radio Show to clarify some of these issues and raise awareness of the new policy. Keep your fingers crossed.

Tonight’s You Served Radio Show & Podcast

Tonight is going to be a great show on the You Served Radio Show and Podcast. We’ve got Matt Williams, President and Founder of Mouth Watering Media and Jamsbio.com. JamsBio.com is hosting dozens of touching memories and dedications to soldiers, from servicemen and women and their loved ones about service, sacrifice, life on the frontlines and home front. They have partnered with the band Queensrÿche to “Honor the American Soldier“.

Speaking of Queensrÿche, we’ll also have an interview with lead singer of the band, Geoff Tate, who recently released the already top 10 CD, “American Soldier” CD on Tuesday. If you haven’t heard the CD yet or read my review, you should hang your head in shame and be prepared to come to the show with an apologetic attitude promising to redeem yourself immediately! American Soldier features voices from actual soldiers interviewed by lead singer Geoff Tate.
See ya tonight, from 7-9pm EST at www.blogtalkradio.com/youserved!!