Category Archives: Spouse and Family

Claire writes about the life of a military spouse and highlights military family life in our times.

Purple Up! For Military Kids

April marks the nation’s “Month of the Military Child,” a time to honor youth impacted by deployment. In celebration, Military Kids (OMK), part of the University of California 4‐H Youth Development program, invites you to join them for the 2nd annual “Purple Up! For Military Kids.”  They are encouraging everyone across the nation to wear purple on Friday, 13 April, as a visible way to show support and thank military children for their strength and sacrifices. Purple is the color that symbolizes all branches of the military, as it is the combination of Army green, Coast Guard blue, Air Force blue, Marine red and Navy blue. OMK hopes everyone will take this opportunity to appreciate and celebrate these young heroes.  For further information on OMK, please go to: http://www.operationmilitarykids.org

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The Military Coalition

The Military Coalition, a group of 34 military-related associations , collectively represents over 5 million members. Numbers like that resonate on Capitol Hill.

One of the ways that the Coalition advocates before Congress is through testimony at congressional hearings. This year the Coalition provided detailed information on its positions to both the House and Senate Armed Services Committees’ Personnel Subcommittees.

Here are some of the highlights contained in the Coalition’s testimony:

Military Pay – The Coaltion urges a continuation of fully comparable military pay raises based on the Employment Cost Index annual increases while also urging Congress to ensure that any restructure of the DoD and VA disability and compensation systems does not inadvertently reduce compensation levels for disabled service members.

Military families – The Coalition warns the Congress to resist any initiatives to civilianize or consolidate DoD retail systems in ways that would reduce their value to patrons. It also urges maintenance of Impact Aid funding for schools, funding for Family Readiness Councils, Yellow Ribbon programs, child care programs, spouse education programs as well as the implementation of flexible spending accounts to enable military families to pay health care and child care expenses with pre-tax dollars.

Reserve Component – The Coalition would like to see early retirement credit authorized for all RC members who have served active duty tours of at least 90 days retroactive to Sept 11, 2001 as well as additional improvements to the yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program. The coalition also urges the Congress to enact academic protections for mobilized RC students including refund guarantees and exemption of federal student loan payments during activation and to increase specialized family support and training for programs that help geographically separated RC families.

Concurrent Receipt – A key Coalition goal continues to be to achieve full concurrent receipt for military retirees who have service-caused disability. VA disability compensation should be added not subtracted from service-earned military retired pay.

Survivor Benefit Plan (SBP) – Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (DIC) – Another long time goal for the coalition is the elimination of the SBP–DIC offset as well as authorization by Congress of survivors to retain the final month’s retired pay for the month in which the military retiree dies.

A hearing on healthcare issues will be held later this week. The Coalition will have a representative testifying at that important hearing.

AAFES Patriot Family Contest

The Army & Air Force Exchange Service is sponsoring its “Patriot Family Peeps Diorama” contest, which gives military shoppers the opportunity to show their creative side and craft a patriotic scene using Peeps candy. Entrants must use a shoebox or comparable item of reasonable size to create a patriotic play, scene or event that inspires emotion. The winner will receive a $1,000 Exchange gift card. Entries will be accepted through April 8. Complete entry rules and regulations can be found at the Patriot Peeps Diorama Contest 2012 webpage at: http://www.shopmyexchange.com/Community/patriotfamily/contests.htm

April is Month of the Military Child – Free Appreciation Certificates Available

April is fast approaching and along with Easter, April Showers, Springtime fun, and all that jazz, comes the Month of the Military Child!  If you are looking for a fun way to honor your military child(ren) then check out this free offer from Blue Star Families:

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Throughout their lives, our military kids endure a lot. They attend multiple schools, sometimes moving mid-school year, they deal with a parent coming and going on a regular basis to both stateside and deployed locations, and they make new friends and leave old friends repeatedly. That’s a lot for anyone to deal with, especially a young child or teenager. We ask a lot of our military kids, and they adapt and bounce back to grow and thrive in the face of adversity and change.

April is a special time set aside for us as a nation to recognize our military children as we honor them throughout the Month of the Military Child. They are just as deserving of the adoration that we give their parents in uniform as they serve side by side with their family.

Blue Star Families and Operation Appreciation would like to provide all of our military families and service members the opportunity to recognize their outstanding military children through our Outstanding Military Child/Teen Award Certificates. Service members are often recognized with certificates and medals for their outstanding service, and we at Blue Star Families would like to provide the opportunity for the outstanding military children in our lives to receive that same recognition. We want our children to be able to hang their own certificate on the wall along with those of their parents.

Every military child is eligible for this award. We want for every military family to tell their child how outstanding and important they are!

Click HERE to order your certificate. 

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Ten Things To Know Before Marrying Into The Military

Most spouses don’t really think twice before marrying into the military. Why would they? They love their husband, and if they want a life with him, then they’ll have to deal with the military too. Unfortunately, marriage doesn’t come with a manual, and marriage in the military is even more complicated than in the civilian world. Many wives, fresh out of their parents’ house and into married life, are blindsided by the amount of stress and responsibility that comes with marrying a service member. We all think we know what to expect, but reality has a way of giving us a wake-up call. And while civilian divorce rates have been dropping, divorce rates in the military have been climbing.

So what is it that spouses need to know to prepare themselves before they marry a military man? What are the tips that spouses could use to help adjust more easily to this hectic lifestyle? For each person, it will probably vary. But if I had to choose what spouses need to know about military life, it would be these ten things.

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Military Kids Can Apply for Free Summer Camps

With the barometer rising and the school year drawing to a close, parents across the nation are starting to think about summertime plans.  Military families can get a head start on their planning today by applying for the National Military Family Association’s (NMFA) Operation Purple Summer Camp program. The nonprofit organization launched this free program nine years ago to support military children, ages 7 to 17, dealing with the stress of war.  The weeklong camps are open to military children of all ranks and services, both active and reserve. Officials will give priority to children who meet the association’s deployment criteria and have never attended an Operation Purple camp. Families should submit their application by midnight EDT on 19 April.  For more information or to submit an online application, visit the NMFA website at: http://bit.ly/GEAfwV

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Daughters of US Military Sailing Scholarship

Sisters Under Sail, a non-profit dedicated to teaching teenage girls leadership skills and life lessons through sail training, will award several scholarships this summer to daughters of our military for a six-day passage.  The program is open to daughters of all Active Duty, Reserve, and National Guard Servicemembers as well as daughters of our Nation’s fallen Heroes.  Applicants must be between the ages of 13 and 18.  Representatives from Military Families United and the United States Military Academy will sit on the scholarship selection committee.  If you have any questions about the program or application process, please feel free to contact Dawn Santamaria via email or phone at dawn@sistersundersail.org and cell:  908-256-6758.  To apply, visit the website at http://www.sistersundersail.org. The deadline for submission is March 30!

Sesame Street, USO Launch Tour for Military Families

Military families across the nation soon will be invited to take a stroll down Sesame Street.  The Sesame Street and USO Experience for Military Families, a free traveling tour exclusively for military families, will kick off 7 April at Scott Air Force Base, Ill., and will visit more than 70 installations over the next eight months. This musical show features Sesame Street favorites including Elmo, as well as a new addition, Elmo’s friend, Katie, a character from a military family dealing with a military move.  Katie talks about her fears and excitements regarding her move. The goal is to reach as many military children and their families as possible, with Elmo and Katie’s messages of hope and resilience.  To learn more about this show, please go to: http://1.usa.gov/zjpWcL

Free Welcome Home Banners

Seeing all of the great welcome home pictures being posted here at You Served lately reminded me of my son’s first time back in the states after being in Iraq. It wasn’t his redeployment time, but his time on leave. It was a 15-month deployment so mid-way through already felt like a small eternity.

I did the motherly thing (and the thing that a lot of milspouses do)… I got a banner made to welcome him home. Now for the rest of the story. I had it all planned out. He would walk down the ramp at the airport and would be greeted by his loving family, all waving little flags and cheering him on. What really happened was his plane was early (like that is every supposed to happen!!), I was running late, my youngest who was 3 at the time, was in a really foul mood and wouldn’t let me dress her, and I missed his landing.

So instead of actually using the banner, I ran down the hall to baggage claim at the airport and burst into tears and hugged his neck when I saw him. Then I showed him the banner.  Continue reading

Moving Home Over Deployment? No Thank You.

It is about as predictable as the pre-and-post-deployment baby booms. As soon as the men board those buses and ship out, the wives do the same. While many stay in the area during a deployment, there is always a small exodus after the men leave. Their husbands are gone, so presumably, they don’t have a reason to stay anymore. But that is a mindset that I have just never been able to understand.

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