Comments on: The Cost of War http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2009/02/27/the-cost-of-war/ Updated information on Veteran Benefits, featured Military Bloggers, the You Served Podcast and various other news and information relevant to Veterans. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 02:25:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Claire http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2009/02/27/the-cost-of-war/comment-page-1/#comment-206892 Claire Sat, 28 Feb 2009 23:09:29 +0000 http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/?p=1224#comment-206892 Ky Woman, yes they do. When Toy Soldier deployed he called me (before he was married of course) and we had to talk about the details of his funeral. I knew exactly what suit to bury him in (his Class As) and what he wanted said and sung. He also did not want my exhusband to try and show his face, so there was a specific restraining order denying the ex any rights to even coming to the place of burial. I took a deep breath. I listened, and when we hung up I cried. That's not a talk you want to have with you child -- I don't care how old they are, and especially when you know they are going into a war zone. I do think that Toy soldier will want to write something up to protect his wife. Our whole issue with this as a family is we should not even have to thinking of this crap. The media does not need to be there for any reason. I guess if one family wanted the media there and no other families were affected that's between them, but the media should not be contacting grieving families. Leave them alone. Ky Woman, yes they do. When Toy Soldier deployed he called me (before he was married of course) and we had to talk about the details of his funeral. I knew exactly what suit to bury him in (his Class As) and what he wanted said and sung. He also did not want my exhusband to try and show his face, so there was a specific restraining order denying the ex any rights to even coming to the place of burial.

I took a deep breath. I listened, and when we hung up I cried. That’s not a talk you want to have with you child — I don’t care how old they are, and especially when you know they are going into a war zone.

I do think that Toy soldier will want to write something up to protect his wife. Our whole issue with this as a family is we should not even have to thinking of this crap. The media does not need to be there for any reason. I guess if one family wanted the media there and no other families were affected that’s between them, but the media should not be contacting grieving families. Leave them alone.

]]> By: Ky Woman http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2009/02/27/the-cost-of-war/comment-page-1/#comment-206814 Ky Woman Sat, 28 Feb 2009 19:28:56 +0000 http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/?p=1224#comment-206814 Claire, Don't all deployed have to write a letter "in case of"? Why can't the ones in charge all those things add a check box to those instructions to include whether or not the person deployed <i>wants</i> the media to be allowed to take pictures? And do those instructions get followed? Who ensures that? You know, I keep hoping that those in the MSM could show some compassion and understanding. I'm sure that there are some who do, yet they seem to be in small numbers. All I can extend is my hope that you and Mr.Hooah! never have to state your wishes on this. The same hope that my brother never has to make his wishes known for my two nephews either. LHP~ Claire,

Don’t all deployed have to write a letter “in case of”? Why can’t the ones in charge all those things add a check box to those instructions to include whether or not the person deployed wants the media to be allowed to take pictures?
And do those instructions get followed? Who ensures that?

You know, I keep hoping that those in the MSM could show some compassion and understanding. I’m sure that there are some who do, yet they seem to be in small numbers.

All I can extend is my hope that you and Mr.Hooah! never have to state your wishes on this. The same hope that my brother never has to make his wishes known for my two nephews either.

LHP~

]]> By: Claire http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2009/02/27/the-cost-of-war/comment-page-1/#comment-206746 Claire Sat, 28 Feb 2009 16:23:00 +0000 http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/?p=1224#comment-206746 I just wish there was some way to ensure that the media would follow the wishes of the families, and that they would get permission ahead of time. I know that sounds morbid, but it just sits poorly with me to think of a Gold Star family having to field questions from the media at that moment -- or having phone calls asking to be there. I have never been where you are, so I know I can only talk as an empathetic supporter. I am glad that you did not have to even answer the question. I just wish there was some way to ensure that the media would follow the wishes of the families, and that they would get permission ahead of time. I know that sounds morbid, but it just sits poorly with me to think of a Gold Star family having to field questions from the media at that moment — or having phone calls asking to be there.

I have never been where you are, so I know I can only talk as an empathetic supporter. I am glad that you did not have to even answer the question.

]]> By: Mickey Gold Star Mother http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/2009/02/27/the-cost-of-war/comment-page-1/#comment-206716 Mickey Gold Star Mother Sat, 28 Feb 2009 14:34:52 +0000 http://www.vamortgagecenter.com/blog/?p=1224#comment-206716 Thank you Claire... I am with you on this one. I would have say NO if I had had that choice 2 years ago when my son arrived at Dover. It should have stayed banned, but I do believe it needed to be a family choice. Thank you Claire… I am with you on this one. I would have say NO if I had had that choice 2 years ago when my son arrived at Dover. It should have stayed banned, but I do believe it needed to be a family choice.

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